A man struggles to change his tire by the side of the road. The traffic is speeding by, wrapped up in their own lives and oblivious to the danger this man is in. He is parked on the right shoulder but he is kneeling on the rear drivers side of his vehicle with oncoming traffic changing lanes at the last second, nearly colliding with him. He is afraid for his life.
As the traffic zoomz past him he hesitantly starts to work. The whole time his eyes are focused on the traffic. Then, just when he’s about to give up, a tow truck pulls up and blocks him from the dangerous traffic.
The wrecker driver has his emergency beacons on and the traffic is changing lanes to avoid the big truck. The driver jumps out and asks if the man could use some help.
“I can’t pay you.” came the reply. “I’m thinking I can get this but thanks anyway.”
The wrecker driver explains that he is on his own time and that there will be no charge. The man is just concerned because this is a dangerous section of road and he wants to help keep people safe.
Together they change the tire. The man tries to give the wrecker driver money but he refuses it as he says “What good is service if I earn money for doing it?”
They shake hands and the man, back in his car, safely resumes his journey home.
That makes us ponder the human spirit. What exactly causes somebody to go out of their way, risk their own life and even spend their own time and money to help a person in need?
What inspires people to do good?
What makes us go out of our way to assist others?
Why would we get up at 4:30 in the morning to pick a friend up and take them to work? Or better yet, why would you stay with someone at the doctor’s appointment? Don’t you have better things you could be doing?
Deep down inside of each and everyone of us there is a natural instinct for goodness. A man passes another man on the street and they both smile at each other. They don’t know one another they just smile to be friendly. This happens on a daily occurrence worldwide over and over again. Yet nobody is put out or worse off because they took 5 seconds to smile at another person.
Studies have concluded that taking those 5 Seconds to smile at another individual exercises muscles in your face that contribute to your youthful look and that there is a chemical reaction inside of your brain that actually cheers you up. A smile is an action that even deaf people understand. A smile is the same in any language.
So where do we get this from?
Most say that it comes from the way we were raised. If our parents are kind, giving, loving and all around good neighbors then we, as children, picked up on those traits. We truly are taught by example. And whether we want to believe it or not, these natural traits of kindness, taught to us by example, actually mold us into the people we are when we’re older.
Do you hold the door open for others? Do you let people in front of you at the grocery store? Do you let somebody go ahead of you at a four-way stop even though you clearly had the right away? These are examples of kind Acts that do not take anything away from your day and yet sometimes, they can mean a lot to the people who we serve. These breif acts of kindness originate from your heart, your conscious, your inner goodness.
You can try to ignore these feelings but they are instinctual. They literally have been woven into your DNA and the fabric that is your human spirit.
Thaddeus Golas, author of ‘A Lazy Man’s Guide To Enlightenment’ said, “All your words and actions define the world you want to live in.” I think this is worth reading again… “All your words and actions define the world you want to live in.”
I do believe this is true. I definitely want to live in a world where my actions make a difference in people’s lives. I want to live in a world where a man can walk past an open garage and have absolutely no desire to walk in and pick stuff up and steal it. I want to live in the world where a woman can come out of her job late at night and safely make it to her car without a fear of being molested.
I would love to live in a place where Neighbors actually got together and had conversations and the whole neighborhood new each other and actually liked each other. Where disputes like an apple tree growing over the fence could be handled civilly without lawsuits. No more drive by shootings, no more muggings, no more rape, no more home invasions oh, oh what a Utopia that would be.
Universities for years have studied the effects of certain things on the brain. Many scientists have taken plants and in isolated rooms have exposed them to various types of music, language, and climate to see how they are affected by these different things. The interesting thing in these studies is that anytime a person or scientist would go into these rooms with these plants and let’s say scream at the top of their lungs for a sustained moment or they would yell obscenities over and over again to these poor plants. The plants responded with little to no growth or they had reduced foliage.
Another interesting aspect of this study was that the scientists found that if they went in to this greenhouse and sang beautiful music or praised the plants or even caressed them with a little human interaction that the growth was up to 50% more and the health of the soil was significantly different. Now I realize these are just plants but I do believe that a little bit of kindness can do miracles.
Franklin Roosevelt said, “Human kindness has never weakened the stamina or softened the fiber of a free people. A nation does not need to be cruel to be tough.”
President Ronald Reagan was one of these types of men. He learned early on that he could make great changes to Taxation and various other government policies that would greatly affect Commerce and the American people.
He learned that he could be tough and stand up against those things that were, in his mind, wrong. At first, this did not make him popular at all. But it was his kind words and his Resolute determination that provided the subsidence in which he was able to accomplish his goals and his tasks. He didn’t have to do name-calling or be mean and belittling to others in order to get what he wanted. He learned to allow people to laugh at themselves and he found that kindness, respect, and the love of other cultures and respect of traditions helped him immensely to further his desires of change.
He brought goodness wherever he went and he is a great example To What We As Americans or as human beings should do.
I have another quote that I think is quite interesting
“One of the most difficult things to give away is kindness… It usually comes back to you.” Anonymous
Have you ever heard of karma? Well she’s very real. And she can be cruel. There have been many times in history where someone we know has done something that has come back to bite them in the booty.
How about a little experiment? In the coming weeks or days take some time to anonymously do something for someone else. Bring a co-worker a donut and leave a note on top of it that says, “Just wanted to let you know you were appreciated.” Don’t sign it! That would defeat the purpose. You are trying to show kindness anonymously.
Sometimes doing an act of kindness does not require you to be praised in return. I think a lot of people have a misconception about this.
Service to your fellow man and acts of kindness can be done anonymously. In fact, I do believe that’s the best way to do kind Acts.
The Bible teaches us, “When you are in the service of your fellow beings, you are serving God.”
Do not get caught up in the desire for payment when you do a kind thing. I promise, your reward will come and you do not need to be recognized for what you have done.
I think it’s very much like integrity. Having integrity means doing the right thing when nobody’s looking. I do believe that kind act and Service Act are often best done when nobody knows it was you that did it.
You come out to go to work and you look across the street and noticed that your neighbor’s garbage can is tipped over. So, seeing that it is empty, you decide to take it back up their driveway so it’s off the street. There may be a neighbor or two who look out their window and see you doing this but they don’t ever say anything to you and that’s okay. You may mow the lawn and realize that your neighbor’s lawn hasn’t been mowed yet and so you know the neighbor’s lawn while they’re at work. They never have to say anything to you and you never have to say anything to them. It was a kind act and I promise there were people noticed.
Often times we get caught up in instant gratification. The world has been kind enough to create conveniences that feed our desires to be satisfied immediately. But in the case of kindness one never needs instant gratification because I promise, the changes that will happen around you will be far greater than any personal recognition that would come to you.
At this point, there very well could be a few of you or wondering exactly what you can do. Let’s address this.
You could do something nice for somebody in your own home or sacrifice some of your time to visit an older person in your neighborhood Who maybe doesn’t get visited very often by their children. I think it’s fun to go into the veterans hall at my local VFW and speak to the vets about their lives and some of the stories that they’ve experienced. You would be surprised at how much a person’s face lights up when you actually show interest in them.
I do believe the world could use a lot more kindness like this.
Well there you have it. Kindness begins with me. Why do I say it that way? Well I think it’s obvious that it’s true.
Nobody is going to require you to do any of this but I guarantee you that if you start being kind you will notice that it will spread and truly one person can make a difference. It doesn’t matter if it’s in your own home, in school, at work, while driving, or any place you deem necessary. Kindness, like truth, is a respecter of no individual. It is not prejudiced, selective or picky in any way shape or form. Kindness fits everyone. It is literally one-size-fits-all.
Now it is time for you to apply these things that you have learned. I thank you for reading this and as always I welcome your thoughts. Goforth and show kindness to all mankind no matter what their race, their nationality, their preferences, or their religion. Just exhort kindness and I promise you will see results.
I thank you for your time